Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Education system and my inability !

I was very very upset y'day ......
1) I am guilty for not able to spend enough time with Nandhu ....
2) I really wonder what the education system we have currently !!!!

let me write it clearly - Nandhu is in LKG and her third term EXAMS are going on !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! First of all , I dont understand why should they burden the kid with exams ( trust me- i get time table and portion as well!!) and to make it worse, they correct the paper and give marks as well !!!!!! not even grade ... And kids are being told that you take Zero , then u wont move to another class... Give me a break ..they are in LKG ! and my daughter comes home with homework - A to Z that too cursive writing - 2 pages !! %%$#%#$ off the system ! When I go , then i get complaints as well if she has not done w well in exams ! Anyways, they will have to study a lot when they grow - but y r we not letting them to enjoy ? This is the sensible person in me talking .

But the poor mother in me is worried and I also start getting the pressure.... :( given my worklife , I am not getting time to sit with her and teach her.. Even with the lil time i get at home, i am sitting iwth my laptop - I think I should also correct myself.... So i was feeling very very guilty y'day..
but having said that , I pay too much money for her education - if theye cant teach properly at school and if i have to do everything at home,then I better keep her at home..
My daughter travels in Van for 45 mins to reach school !!! is it really worth ? She studied in a school near my home last yr- it was just opposite - it was just a normal school concentrating on Academics - i thought I am a great Genius and wanted my daughter to excel in other activities as well - so thought thiss is some international school ( bullshit !) ,dance ,swimming bla bla .. her language will improve much of analysis and i moved her here with some heafty Donation !what a waste ! she goes for swimming ,she dances - but her basics seem to be missing - she was bettr in that old school .....
Yday , I had to sit with her and at times , I hit her as well .. and shouted to her in anger.. how to teach her eveything on the day of exam !! I knew I was wrong .. But I behaved so badly yday and at night I checked myself and told Sorry to Nandhu .. If I dont understand ,then whom else will understand my kid !!

I am still upset for my behaviour ......

I am now seriously thinking about changing her school !

Monday, March 22, 2010

Nandhu - My MIL !

I have got a good MIL who doesnt question me unnecessarily - May be she knows thaat it doesnt really change me if she says somethin - U see .basically she is clever ...

From my childhood , I have always been a rebel - if someone asks me to take a path on left , I will make sure that I tke a path on right... It was in my blood .. questioned everything around and it became a habit ! I was a spoiled brat and a tough nut ..... and Neither my parents could control nor my hubby..all were basically good and paavam .and couldnt really tolerate what happened at last ? they got used to me .heheh ..pity them - they dont have a choice..

Actually - on a side note , I always wondered - My parents had no choice - of course u dont get a choice to select ur baby..Bt my hubby? how did he really got into this ? ? hhehe .. only he can answer .. it s a million dolloar question for my parents as well..u see .. vidhi namma munnadi vandhu disco aadum bothu , thapikava mudium ? hehehe :) ada chee.. pesa vandha topic a vittutu vere ennamo pesittu erukken?

Now .. i was doing my own hitler ruling till the day my lil angel arrived ... God was watching me and told to himself that - Magalae vaichu erukken unakku second halfla ..

now she is 4 and she has taken over a role of my mil

1) me working in laptop

Nandhu comes and shouts at me - she calls me by Name " amma ... evavlo thadava sollarathu unakku ? arivae kidaiyatha??? when u come home, y dont u play with me? eppo paaru laptop , phone ???? "

2) i am on phone and she is with my parents.

appa is assking Nandhu - Nandhu .. naangalum poyita nee enna pannuva ? amma work pannindae erupalae?
her answer : enna pannarathu ?? appovum amma ithethan pannuva .. so naan oru orphange poren ..neriya pasanga erukangalae??? !!!!! WOW ! enna thought process???/

3)I m watching TV - she comes
Amma , enna pannara ? oficela erunthu vandhuttu innuum nee tiffin box alambala … thaatha alambina ..kai ellam ratham varuthu ..unakku poruppae illaiya?????????! How dare ? even my parents don’t ask that !!!!!!!!

4) I m getting ready to go out – dressing up

She comes – amma – ennadhu ithu ? ivalo Periya pottu ??? Mami maathiri erukku ..enna color dress ithu ? y this saree? Jeans pottukko .. habba ..konjam modern than en mamiyar !!!!

5) I am again watching TV and my mother in kitchen

She comes and asks me – amma – y don’t u cook ? unaku samaikka theriyatha ? panni kooden .eppo paaru ammamma than samaikara ….  now this is the area I cant do anything – I tell her that – no way ..she doesn’t give up … at last – I ended up taking her to Pizza hut!!!!!!!!!

6) me and Nandhu are outside ,roaming around and I am wearing one of her ear rings..
Nandhu is asking me thru out the trip – Mummy …yen ennoda thodu pottu erukka???unakku vere illaiya??? Don’t worry - I will share everything ..she says this at least 10 times and even in front of my relatives – indha padaiyappa style … ithuthan maapilliai …aana dress ennodatthu illa ??

7) to my mother - seeing her keeping her chain inside locker
Ammama.. yen nee ivalo nagai pottu erukka? En amma onnumae pottukalaiyae – Amma says – ellamae enakku apuram unakkuthan de… .. Nandhu tells her – “ippovae kudu ammaama ,evalo naal wait pannum??? “

8) in school – her teacher asks her what is her fav food?

She says fried rice and tell hher miss that amma doesn’t cook at all in home – we always eat friend rice in saravana athuthan pudikkum !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Incidents are moreeeeeeeeeeee !

But at times , she is my mother as well – When I am not well , ,she is the one who takes care of me … when I am upset , she also cries with me – when I am around , she always clings on to me … she tells me that she loves me the most … She is too possessive about me.. doesn’t even let my hubby touch me.. for anything and everything she comes to me .. .when I work , she doesn’t disturb, she waits for me to complete it to talk to me ….. she is my boon , she is my love and she is my everything.. I am proud to say that I am her MOTHER !! 